Ask A Cougar: Does a cougar need to be rich, not just sexy?
The Cougar (Stacey Anderson) faces conversation so boring she just can't get drunk fast enough...He better be really good in bed.
Is it enough for an older woman wanting to date a younger man to be sexy or does she need to be rich too? I mean, let’s really think about this because we all know the reverse is true. I’m going to take a windy road to answer this vital question.
Let’s start with TV, which I deeply love. We all agree, I’m sure, that TV is one of the most powerful persuaders of how we see ourselves. Which is exactly why I drove over to my friend’s house for the 10PM premier of the newest reality show, The Cougar.
The Cougar aired last Wednesday on TV Land and watching it was kind of like having to pick up my puppy’s poop – I don’t want to do it but I have to (the neighbors may be watching). The Cougar follows the exact same formula for The Bachelor, only it features a 40-year old woman searching for “ever-lasting love” (what an ol’ fashioned gal) in a jungle of horned twenty-odd year old guys.
The opening of the show introduces Stacey Anderson, AKA, Urbancougar of the month. First we see Stacey in corporate mode, shaking hands with some business types. Then Stacey’s lounging on her pool deck. The voice over goes something like, “Stacey, having just closed a $48 million dollar commercial real estate deal, rewards herself with a relaxing mani-pedi-spray tan combo treatment. Once everything’s dried, you can bet that this sexy little beaver will be back on the phone trying to nab some land for Habit for Humanity. Does our hot Cougar know how to live out loud or what?!”
Why, yes, agrees Stacey. “A cougar today is smart, sassy, driven and successful,” she exclaims philosophically. “She knows exactly what she wants and is straightforward but not overbearing. She reeks of confidence and has a style and charisma that emulates class and success. Her beauty shines from the inside out. She is a classic timepiece. She’s magnetic in her presence and captures the hearts of young men by her “no B.S.” attitude.”
Stacey, I say to you, “wot is yous banging on about?” (to quote a true TV genius, Ali G, AKA, Sacha Baron Cohen). I thought it was enough to be frightfully oversexed to make it as a cougar. Now you’re telling me I’ve got to be successful too?
What’s a feline to do? Well, for starters, admit TV’s got a problem and just say, ‘off’ (to the remote, not the cub). Don’t let the lack of bank stand between you and a little fun. I mean, take me for instance, I don’t even have a darn job and me and the cub are doing just fine, and even great some might say.
So, rise up, oh cougar wannabes and keep it real. Trust there are young guys out there who will want you just because you’re you. Make love, not money.
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Hi Pamela,
great post – straight to the heart of the issue !
As far as I am concerned, a woman’s financial standing has absolutely no role in her attractiveness. It plays no role in initial attraction, no role in physical compatibility, and very little role in the mutual relationship.
The factors which are important are the physical body and psychological outlook.
Physicality is all important in everything corporeal. The story described in your profile is absolutely spot on (”who’s the fat ass ?”). Keeping our BMI at 22-23 ensures sex with lots of lovely people. Honestly, men look at the body first, and everything else is perceived through that first impression.
“Psychological outlook” is another way of stating the cliche which is personality. The guy (& gal) has to find the right personality. What gives us the endurable desire to return to that person, to be with that person ? Deep down inside all of us is an archetypal personality which makes us feel desired, wanted and loved.
We can (& should) manipulate our body to have short term sex. Ladies with a BMI of 22/23 can have sex with ANY man that they desire. However, we should never try to act out a personality which is false. When we put our’self’ into the relationship we look beyond sex, and as such we stake our self esteem. Truth to ourselves, and our partner, is the only safe way forward beyond no-strings attached sex.
Money in the bank is only attractive to men who have lost confidence in their self-concept. – is that attractive beyond a one night stand ?
Pamela – I loved this post on money & attraction. You are challenging the ‘honesty’ crown !
keep it up !
best wishes,
Phil.
Very interesting advice, Phil, this whole BMI thing. I have to thing about that as it challenges the notion I’ve previously had that guys like it curvy. I mean just look at strippers (not that I do) but they’re always so “well-rounded.” How does silicone factor into the BMI equation?
Uh, Janice, those are really good questions. I’m going to consult a cub expert and get back to you. Stay tuned…Pamela
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Hello people. I am a male in my upper forties. I have a comment to the discussion about cougars and sexiness versus economic strength. I agree that Stacey Anderson represents an exception from the “rule.” One of my best friends and I discussed and concluded already around 1983-84 that there was an opposite(inverse) reltionship between the sexiness/beautifulness of the Norwegian girls and their intellectual smartness/academical skills (often economical strengt is a part of the latter, too). I do believe that this, on an overall base, is still true, but I feel that through the 1990-ies and through this decade, is has been more common with more and more exceptions from the “rule.” Before, we had the expression “Lipstick Lesbian.” Now, I would say that we have the expression “Lipstick Rescourceful Cougar” or “Lipstick Smart Woman!” And I welcome this development. I love the development. It is sad if one person cannot be two things at the same time: Beautiful/sexy and smart/resourceful!! I love cougars! My wife is almost 49 and a long-leged blonde! Take care all cougars and cougar-admires! Happy new year! Regards form Öyvind The Norwegian.
Dear Öyvind The Norwegian, What an impressive name! I see you northern types are much more progressive in your thinking on women. The idea that a woman can be many things at once finally being accepted–how I applaud that! I am curious, do they have “cougars” in Norway? Are older women and younger men an increasingly common thing there? Does anyone really care that much about age difference. And speaking of Norway, I just saw a film (last night in fact, Dec 26) called The Bothersome Man. It’s Norwegian, directed by Jens Lien. Odd movie that I’m not sure I understand. Have you seen it?
Taking a break from being a busy little beaver myself and fully enjoying myself on your blog. And now I have a question for you … does a “cub” really want a “cougar” for herself, or does the cub really just want:
1. To show off to his buddies and advertise what a manly man he is by scoring a cougar
2. To be lazy by scoring a cougar who will take care of him
3. To be with a woman who isn’t going to constantly badger him to get hitched and crank out kiddies?
I suspect that your beau Michael is none of these, but I also suspect he may be the exception to the rule.
How valid are my suspicions, Pamela?