Beware The Saliva!
Lay it on me, baby.
Have you ever met a guy who was phenomenal in the sack but just a horrible kisser? I mean so disgustingly slobbery that you’d rather suck on a slimy frog? If it were me, the guy wouldn’t make it past a slap on the face let alone get anywhere near my bra strap.
But, says the kissing-science field of philematology (yeah, that’s a new one for me, too), I could be missing the point. Kissologists (okay, I made up the term), or those who study the biochemistry of kisses, say that saliva increases sex drive and even coupling. Men also could be using the saliva transfer to assess a woman’s fertility and estrogen cycle.
Yes, smart people actually study this stuff. The finding was recently (Feb 13) reported at the annual meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science (AAAS).
“There is evidence that saliva has testosterone in it,” said Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher, and testosterone increases sex drive. “And there is evidence that men like sloppier kisses with more open mouth. That suggests they are unconsciously trying to transfer testosterone to stimulate sex drive in women.”
Using the fine art of osculating to get a girl fornicating–I mean, just how low can a guy get? Apparently they can’t much help themselves. Evolution makes them do it so they can screw it. Still, I hope the male of our species can remember that they’ve advanced a tad beyond primate and there’s a fine line between the kiss that fans the flame and the one that douses it.
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I’m with you Fredericka, bad kisser is a deal breaker. Fortunately, that can be remedied. 
Pam, I love your blog. I’m off to check out your book. Menopause is driving me absolutely insane. And not in a good way.
Magnolia, do tell. I’ve heard rumors that you can train a man to kiss, but in my 40-some years I’ve never found that to be the case. Either you get it or you don’t, and gentle training (in my experience) has been like training a cat.
Okay Fredericka,
I’ll concede. A certain amount of soulful passion is required for a good kisser.
However, it’s been my experience that bad kissers are generally repressed. Or, if you want to say it nicely, conservative.
Take the lead and say….”this is how we do it baby” I’ve converted one or two with this method. 
To teach or not to teach, that is the question. For me, it all depends on his openness and receptivity. Gals, we all know the onerous beast that is commonly referred to as the male ego. Typically, unteachable. I don’t have the interest to strategically tip-toe around the beast hoping not to unleash its fury with comments like, “will you please stop spitting in my mouth.” But then I’ve always lacked patience in the sex department. I’m with Dr Phil on this one, “you either get it or you don’t.”
Mags, thank you for the comment about loving my blog. I appreciate that immensely. I want to help you on the menopause front with a book update. I’ve been in progress to self-publish when the possibility of going the traditional route arose. So things are on hold temporarily but it will be coming soon, I promise. I’ll add you to the emailing list for updates if that’s okay?
Yeah, Pam, add me to your email list and keep me updated. And how great you get to do the traditional route of publishing!
I know self-publishing is the ‘wave’ of the future so to speak, but it’s always good to have the cred of mainstream publishers.
Good on ya!
Great piece, but I’m only responding to your question about how a guy can be phenomenal in the sack but a bad kisser. My question is this: Is such a thing possible? And even if it is, would you really stick around to find out? A bad kisser doesn’t get a return phone call, let alone a tour of my intimates. But maybe I am in the minority. Ladies? What do you say?